I’ve been meaning to write a new post for the last few months, but life got in the way! Trying to wrap up everything at work while feeling very large and pregnant (and no matter where you go, people reminding you how large and pregnant you look every single day) while trying to have the energy to get things prepped for the new baby and still find time to play with your toddler and have a relationship with your husband can really take a toll on someone. I was starting to get a little nervous about having a second baby!
I’ll start with my birth story for my new little guy, Easton. I was due on January 4 but had a feeling I’d be giving birth early. I was a lot bigger than last time, much more achy, and all around exhausted much sooner. I’d also gained more weight (54lbs to be exact) than last time and according to the last ultrasound I had my baby was measuring in the 95th percentile! I felt pretty good around Christmas so I thought he would stay in there a little bit longer, but I woke up at 1:00 AM on December 27th having contractions. They weren’t close enough together to head to the hospital, so essentially I got a few minutes of sleep every 7-12 minutes between contractions. We finally headed to the hospital around 8:00 AM and the nurses couldn’t figure out why they couldn’t feel the head of the baby. Turned out in the last week he decided to turn completely transverse (sideways) and wrapped himself up in the cord so they had no choice but to do another c-section. I was heartbroken, and there were a few tears in the hospital. Not being able to pick up my toddler or do much for six weeks was going to be a struggle. But in the end, my husband reminded me/assured me that everything was going to be ok and that we’d make it work, so off to the OR I went.
This c-section actually went a whole lot smoother (despite the fact that he was really wedged in there) than my first son. Easton was alert and awake when he came out, and the doctor’s assured me the whole way that everything was going well. With Kendrick, he came out having some trouble breathing and they had pump his little lungs. No one said a word to us for what seemed like an eternity and finally he started crying and they told us everything was ok, but it was very stressful for both my husband and I. I also only had to spend 48 hours in the hospital rather than 72, which was a huge bonus since my husband was going back and forth to our house and relatives houses so that we constantly had someone to watch Kendrick. Breastfeeding has also been a bit of a challenge but going better than last time so I’m very excited! More about that story here on my Instagram page.
The first week at home was quite a challenge. Kendrick was upset with us and wasn’t a fan of his little brother. It was -30 degrees celsius for a week and we didn’t leave the house for four days so all of us were going a little stir crazy. There were many temper tantrums. I was panicking. But there was also good friends, family and coworkers coming to visit and bringing us delicious food and little toys for Kendrick. In the first two weeks I think I only actually had to cook once. We are truly blessed!
I also started to see what my postpartum body is starting to look like. From the 54 pounds I gained during pregnancy, I now only have 33 more to lose (which is pretty amazing since I’ve done nothing as I’m not allowed to work out yet and been on the couch more often than not). I’m starting to get really excited and motivated about working out again, but also super nervous because I have no idea where the heck I’m going to find the time. I also know that my body has changed, as I can feel clothes fitting differently. Although I still have a goal weight, I look forward to embracing my body after babies and plan to do a wardrobe clean-out at some point this year, and then go Boxing Day shopping to refresh my wardrobe before I go back to work! I signed up for the Edmonton Half Marathon back in August and am really looking forward to start training when I get the OK from the doctor.
Almost three weeks in things are definitely starting to fall into place. My c-section is healing really well, I’m allowed to take baths again (which is where I’ve written most of this post), and I’m allowed to drive at the end of this month. Kendrick is embracing his little brother and the jealousy is starting to go away, and the temper tantrums have cut down. He wants to help with absolutely everything and it’s adorable. We also started potty training him last week and to my surprise (I say this because he seemed to have no interest at all) it’s going pretty well! Soon enough we may only have one in diapers which would be amazing! We’re also learning how long it takes to get out of the house with two kids (aka a lot longer than with one) and have been able to do some nice family outings. The littlest dude is growing like crazy and is in the 90th percentile for weight and the 97th for height!
One thing that has been lacking has been my Me Time (more about how important Me Time is to me here). It’s no one’s fault really, it’s just one of the adjustments to taking care of a newborn again! I was able to get out of the house on my own to do some grocery shopping a few days ago (shhh don’t tell, it was only a two minute drive away) and let me tell you how glorious that felt! Yes, I’m talking about grocery shopping. By myself. Ha! #momlife
We’ve also been getting ourselves into a bit more of a routine and working well as a team so I know it will we will get more and more comfortable as time goes on. I’m still not sure how we’re going to manage bed time if there’s only one of us home, but I’m sure that will come with time. The littlest guy is waking up every 2-3 hours to feed so Mommy and Daddy are exhausted but hoping that he starts to sleep better in the next month or so as his big brother was a really good sleeper for the most part!
If you have any tips for new parents of two, I’d love to hear them!